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Had to put her down. I saw to it that I was there at the moment. Masochism, loyalty, bravery.... I dont know. Doesnt matter. Even though I like dogs, I dont want another pet. I trat them as if they were persons. And I am too lazy. Maybe what I like is the vision/aesthetics of dogs, only. My...

Died last Wednesday. Now I regret having said what I said about her. And not having had the patience I should have had with her, and not wanting her to stay for good at my home. All that despite my knowing that she was very happy with us. Probably because we let her have her way in everything. I...

I am afraid I have flooded this forum with my personal problems. But I cant promise to stop.... I get very useful advice. And sometimes I even detect real friendship. Or is it wishful thinking..... More thanks to you all!

Changed to e-cigs 2 years ago. I barely miss the real ones. Not wanting to disappoint my wife and son has helped me quit. Some of my friends smoke, but I don't care. Cancer and emphysema help me stay quit too..... BTW.... All this current threat to e-cigs....might it not be counterproducive to...

And she has diabetes, needing to be insulin injected everyday. She is such a good, affectionate, mild-mannered and patient dog.... And neat. How can I teach her now how to change her toilet manners? PS My mom is rotating for the moment. Which annoys her no end. Family decided to set her up...

Here I am again asking for advice..... My 13 year od dog, who I love dearly, can't negotiate the few steps of the stairs of our first floor flat to the street, despite the special harness we have bought. We are willing, if messy, to clean up its "business" inside the flat if that is the only...

Following all your advice, I assure you that at Easter I'll force a solution in the family gathering. My marriage is at stake, never mind my wife's great patience and disposition. She doesn't deserve this. She is the newcomer of all the in-laws. Sorry Meadbh, but so long as there are posts....

Gotcha! I stand corrected. My apologies.

Always like this. But of course I left home 40 years ago. She was under my father's shadow. Got very embittered when she widowed in 1984.

Is it a terrible thing to say that she is mi mother .....but I don't like her? Part of it due to her arrogant and moody attitude of not agreeing to anything other than not wanting to move, indifferently carrying on, and self-righteously considering it my duty to put up with all this, never mind...

Did I make the mistake of not setting the rules from the very start? Was I too permissive out making her feel at home?

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Family reunion, mother included: the issue was thoroughly discussed. Bottom line: she doesn't want to be moved around. Anywhere. She is happy the way she is now. My siblings: "tough luck, sh** happens" End of story. Thank you all.

Ha ha: Yeah yeah .... I am a pitiful weakling and a pushover. And I deserve whatever will be coming my way regarding this issue.

Quite simply-because she doesn't want anyone more than 4/6hours a week for the hard house chores. She feels that quasi live-in caretakers interferes with her privacy, even though she admits to not being able to really live completely on her own. As I've said, she mentioned that she felt...

My wife, who is suffering the problem that other in-laws have managed to dodge, asks what would be the best solution for everybody: 1. Have Mom in a place of her own where 4 of us live and getting All her children on rotation to live with her. 2. Have her spend Winter and Fall at her flat in...

Great advice from all of you. Thank you all. But sadly I am afraid that the subtle, polite and reasonable approach isn't going to do the trick. A few facts: 1. She doesn't have living friends here. What's worse she isn't interested in making new ones. She has always been rather antisocial, trait...

I think Ill be brave enough -fat chance- to challenge her with some of your items of advice when her stay is near the end of my theoretical term of duty. Otherwise Ill add -to ourselves- insult to injury by having to put up with her bad mood for a long time.

In principle, all 9 of us have to share the responsability. But the bottom line is that it seems my wife and me is the most convenient solution, being as we are so timid....Previously one of my sisters practically evicted her before her three month term was due. Now Mom has warned us all that...

I would have thought that for somebody who has always claimed/boasted to be an independent self-reliant and solitary kind of person, to have a room for herself would be much aporeciated. I gues I am/was wrong..... Another thought: our having de facto allowed her to do what she wants -like in no...

It is not that easy to have that talk. Whenever I want to address any issue related to what Ive mentioned, she either dodges the topic, pretends it has nothing to do with her, says she isn'n welcome or gets into a sullen mood.

I know this is a delicate and sensitive issue but I need to tell somebody how I feel, which is.....trapped in my own house. When she came I told her to make herself at home. And she most certainly did! She has her own room with all the fixtures, but she is never there. She is a chain smoker and...

This thread somewhat reminds me of that old joke about the question asked in a big corporation:whether sleeping with your boss/supervosor's wife was a pleasure or just plain work......

BBB: I was about to ask if anything had happened to you...... Another usual suspect accounted for:)

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