CardsFan
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
Midpack, I understand where you are. DW is frugal (sometimes to a fault). We got here by saving and changing is hard. I am not one to go blow the dough on some whim, but I am trying to get her let loose a little. Ironically, she has not had much of a problem with big items, like a new car, a VRBO in FL for 2-4 weeks. But, the mid price and "cheap stuff" is where she digs her heels in.
So, while I think it is a waste. I am OK with her using FETCH and all the other ways she wants to get "points". Last 2 times we drove to FL I booked the hotel. Instead of her Quality Inn with points, I booked a Fairfield (Marriot) because I have points there (not that I really care about it). The reaction was. OK this is much better (for maybe $20-30 more). So, start small.
I am also fond of telling DW "If we don't spend it, DS will spend it on his dog". While a bit sarcastic (and I am known for that) she does get the point, at least a little.
Regarding the end of life issue, DW has lost 2 friends in the past year to ALS. Both our age or younger. So, I think that was also a bit of a wake up call.
One of the friends was single, and it was miserable to watch. The second had a husband and a bucket list. They spent 2 years doing everything on that list. Being on a float at NOLA Mardi Gras, watching the STL Cardinals play in London, and they bought a trailer to travel to so many parks I lost track. So, at times, we need to remind ourselves how lucky we are to be able to do it without definitive timetable.
So, while I think it is a waste. I am OK with her using FETCH and all the other ways she wants to get "points". Last 2 times we drove to FL I booked the hotel. Instead of her Quality Inn with points, I booked a Fairfield (Marriot) because I have points there (not that I really care about it). The reaction was. OK this is much better (for maybe $20-30 more). So, start small.
I am also fond of telling DW "If we don't spend it, DS will spend it on his dog". While a bit sarcastic (and I am known for that) she does get the point, at least a little.
Regarding the end of life issue, DW has lost 2 friends in the past year to ALS. Both our age or younger. So, I think that was also a bit of a wake up call.
One of the friends was single, and it was miserable to watch. The second had a husband and a bucket list. They spent 2 years doing everything on that list. Being on a float at NOLA Mardi Gras, watching the STL Cardinals play in London, and they bought a trailer to travel to so many parks I lost track. So, at times, we need to remind ourselves how lucky we are to be able to do it without definitive timetable.