1 Year in Delaware (moved from Texas)

Katsmeow

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So last year I posted about moving from Texas to Delaware

Moving to Delaware?

We arrived in Delaware June 25 of last year so we have gone through a full year.

Moving here was a huge leap for us. We knew no one in Delaware. We had never been to Delaware except maybe driving through on I-95 once or twice 20 years or so go. I had never lived anywhere but Texas. DH's father was in the Navy so he had lived other places before his dad retired, but he had been in Texas since he was about 13.

We did do a lot of research before deciding. We had 3 decisions we had to make. The first was whether to sell our house in Texas. We liked it but it had a lot of unused space and was expensive to maintain. The next decision was whether to move within Texas. For many reasons, we decided not to stay in Texas.. The most difficult decision was where to go. We considered lots of places. Most were in a more westernly direction. We even traveled to Las Vegas and for a time very seriously intended to move there. But, then we became concerned about limited healthcare options in Nevada and decided to cross it off the list. I had considered Delaware briefly before that and decided to look at it more seriously. We also seriously considered Pennsylvania but ultimately Delaware won out.

We had hoped to visit Delaware before moving here but we went under contract and closed before we could do that. So we drove here having sold our house with no idea what we would do. We rented a house on a 3 month rental and by the time that rental was up we had found a house here and closed on it. Had we truly hated it here, we could have made a change during that time before buying.

So how has it held up against our criteria? Honestly pretty good. There are a couple of negatives but far more positives.

Cost of Living - Far less expensive in Delaware. In Texas we paid about $6500 in property tax (with an over 65 exemption) and right before we left our home insurance had increased to almost $6000 a year (with us never having had a claim before that). We bought a house in Delaware close in price to what we had in Texas. Our property tax is about $2400 and home insurance is just under $1200. Utilities are also less. Delaware has no sales tax which is a huge thing. Yes, Delaware has a state income tax. But, due to SS not being taxed and other exemptions we have so far not needed to pay it. Even if there is a year or two where we have to pay it will be far less than property tax and sales tax are in Texas. Our overall expenses are just much less here.

Weather - So much better here. Obviously summers are far milder. People here do get panicked when the temperature goes over 90. I don't even really notice that. People complain about humidity here but it s nothing compared to Texas. And, most of the time here it doesn't go over 90. I was a bit apprehensive about winter since I haven't lived in a cold area and I don't like cold weather or snow. This winter was actually relatively bad with having 2 times that it snowed for a few days. One of the time, a tree on the neighbor's property fell (high wind) and knocked down a power line and we were without power for 4 days. That was bad but it was not typical. Otherwise, the winter was fine.

House and neighborhoods - We ended up in norther New Castle County (for those familiar we are in the Pike Creek area) in an unincorporated area sort of in between Wilmington and Newark. I must admit that in the past year I have actually been in Wilmington city limits one time (except for driving through a couple of times). We just don't go that direction often. We sometimes go to Pa to eat out. Depending on where we go it is 45 minutes to an hour which is fine. But, we have lots of amenities near by. The main hospital is 15 minutes from our house which was an important criteria for us. We ended up with a split level house that was built in the 60s. I usually like newer houses but this house has had a lot remodeling over the years and has worked out very well for us. We are very happy with it.

Travel - One reason we picked Delaware was because of its central locations and being able to go to short trips to lots of places and having the ability to travel to them by train. Honestly -- we haven't done any of that yet. It is on our list but getting settled into this house and doing some work on it just has kept us busy. We've driven to Pa (mostly to the King of Prussia mall) and once to Lancaster and drove to Rehoboth once...but still have lots we want to do. I think it will all be fine though.

The People - We want to meet people but just haven't gotten into activities yet for the same reason we haven't travelled. We want to get back into playing in person bridge and there is a club not far from us and another larger one in King of Prussia. I will say that most of the people we've dealt with have been friendly and easy to get along with. Many of the people we left behind in Texas expressed the viewpoint that people "up north" aren't friendly and are rude. But that hasn't been our experience.

So all of the above is great. What isn't great? I would say 2 things have been more negative than I expected although I did expect most of the this. These things are still far outweighed by the above.

Healthcare - having access to good healthcare was very important to us. We are both getting older and so this is important. Last year I had a high calcium score and found out I have blockages in my coronary arteries. They weren't bad enough to stent but I realized my biggest risk was having a heart attack. So I wanted to be close to a good hospital and also wanted to have really advanced care available in the event of any unusual event whether heart related or something else. We eliminated Las Vegas from consideration because its hospitals are not great and, even more importantly, if you need more advanced care you have to go to Phoenix or California. I wanted to have everything within at least an hour or hour and a half away.

So, mostly it has been fine in Delaware. Since we knew no one here and wanted to easily find specialists we elected to go with an MDVIP concierge PCP. Overall that has worked out very well. We like the PCP and he has referred us to people and that is all fine. The main hospital in Delaware is 15 minutes from our house so for almost anything that happens they are close. If some really advanced care was needed that couldn't be done here, well, we aren't that far from Penn.

The big issue is that there aren't enough doctors in Delaware. At one point I was referred to a specialist and was offered an appointment in 6 months. Another time it was going to be 4 months. Now, because I have the PCP, he was able to find someone else sooner (although in one case it still took 3 months). But it is just an issue. I really would prefer not to have to pay for a concierge doctor but it really seems necessary here. Many people here drive to Pa and see specialists from Penn or do their primary care through Penn Medicine. But, I would prefer not to have to drive 45 minutes for everything. So far, it has all worked out OK just more difficult than I am used in Texas.

Fewer choices for vendors, contractors, insurers, etc. - I knew when I moved here that Delaware itself was a small state without a lot of people. But, I also knew it was in the Philadelphia metro area. I had lived in both the DFW and Houston metro areas which are only a little busier so I really expected the overall area to have similar levels of choices. That....really isn't true. For many things, I do have to drive to Pa (or Md or NJ). Mostly, it is for restaurants that don't exist in Delaware. I sort of expected that and that is OK.

The bigger issue is that some larger companies just don't do business in Delaware. My auto/home insurer in Texas doesn't do business in Delaware. We found another company but I had fewer choices. Many contractors and vendors in Delaware do work in Pa or Md but it doesn't always work the other way. We still have choices but not as many. We want to convert a tub in our house to a tiled shower and finding someone has been very difficult (still looking...).

So, while we are in the Philadelphia metro area it often doesn't seem like it.

Takes a long time to get places - This one is the one I didn't really understand before we got here. It has its good part and bad part to it. There are not many freeways in Delaware. Also to get from Delaware to the Philadelphia suburbs takes a long time since you are mostly not on freeways. I went somewhere the other day that was 30 miles away. It took an hour to get there. Why? Lots of twisty turning roads where you couldn't drive very fast. One issue is that in northern Delaware and in Pennsylvania nearby, there are lots of farms and estates and the roads seem to go around those properties. In Texas, they would just put a road through that goes straight, but not so much here. When we first got here I would see that some place was 30 miles away and think we could be there in 30 minutes. No, it doesn't work that way. At least an hour.

Now, most of the time this is actually not bad. I hardly ever have to drive on a freeway. I can drive on them but it is far less stressful not to have to most of the time. So for most of the time I like that I don't have to go on 3 freeways to get somewhere. So, day to day, this is all fine. But, when I do want to go outside Delaware to a store we don't have here it does seem to just take forever when it looks so close on a map....

Still - we are very happy with the move. At no point have we regretted leaving Texas (we remain ecstatic about that part) and we are glad we picked Delaware.
 
Looks like the move was mostly a positive.

Your last point was a surprise to me, but I was thinking in large miles. I know it takes days of driving from the east side of Texas to the west side. By comparison, from your location you can drive 1 hour to visit Baltimore’s Inner Harbor or an additional 45 minutes to visit the Smithsonian in Washington DC. In the other direction, New York City is 1 hour and 45 minutes north.

For shorter trips, you can get to some Delaware beaches with a 1 hour drive. You can visit the Amish in Lancaster County, PA with a 45 minute drive.

You might check to see if your town has senior bus trips for many of these destinations.
 
For contractors, check with your town’s construction office. In NJ, local contractors need to file permits for most home improvements and they have a good working relationship with local contractors. Some towns can provide you a list of local contractors.
 
You kinda lost me at cold and snow, but otherwise sounds very nice. I drove through Delaware many years ago and it seemed very livable. I like the East Coast area.
 
Nice report Katsmeow. I’ve found that the “Takes a long time to get places” problem is almost everywhere, real bad near the coasts, and is getting worse. Even in the Midwest, it now takes me 50% longer to get to places in cities and towns than it used to. Rural parts of Montana, Wyoming, North Dakota and a few other places are still ok for road travel times.
 
Good choice - we did consider Delaware and many of the people we knew in NJ ended up in Delaware for many of the reasons you mentioned. Lower taxes and lower COL than most of NJ.
For us it was too warm and we prefer cooler summers and winters.So we ended up along the coast in CT, still gets warm here but winters are mild near the shore. Anyways, enjoy!
 
The train I often take from DC to NYC stops in Wilmington, so you can definitely do day trips to either city to find any restaurant you can think of! Let me know if you're looking for any specific recommendations, but if you want to do an overnight trip to NYC, you can walk to a couple of Pod hotels from Penn Station, they're clean and comfortable and usually under $200 per night. And if you want to drive or take the train down to Baltimore, the National Aquarium there is the best I've ever seen, on par with the Shedd Aquarium in Chicago. I highly recommend it.

Welcome to the east coast!
 
Yeah, I recall your plan getting hurried up, so you guys took action quickly.

If I didn't mention using google drive times as suspect a lot of the time, sorry about that. There's seasonal variation in different corridors, as well as commuting challenges. Of course the only way to know for sure is to live in a location.

I'm not familiar with your area, but I can imagine the challenges of driving. The problems are everywhere, and I can't recall a time when there wasn't some type of highway rebuild.

Thrity miles could take an hour, 30 minutes, or something else. I had a 15-mile commute across three NJ towns, and it always took 45 minutes on single- and double-lane rural roads.

I looked up Philly metro area, and it does seem that Delaware is included in the statistical area. But I personally never thought of it that way.

For contractors I usually skim through NextDoor. Yeah, it's 99% drivel, but worth a try for contractors. I found HVAC and Plumbing companies of good standing. Converting a shower space, you'd want to get friendly with your neighbors to find out who to avoid, and who to pursue.

For healthcare, Lankenau Health Group, UofP and Jefferson are probably the top choices if the problem is major. A 6-month wait would tell me to choose a different specialist. I just had to re-visit my urologist after 4 years (long story), and the wait for a top surgeon office visit in CC Philly was about a month. Locally, I could get on someone's schedule next week.

For dinner or lunch, we occasionally meet friends or relatives near RiverWalk. https://www.tripadvisor.com/Restaur...Wilmington_Riverwalk-Wilmington_Delaware.html

I wish you well, it sounds like you're generally positive about the location.
 
Ahhh, you are in a beautiful area! Winterthur, Longwood gardens, Kennett Square, Brandywine museum, Chadds Ford...so many good restaurants and shopping opportunities. Get the annual pass for Longwood! It is wonderful to see in all the seasons.
 
+1. Glad it worked out so well for you. We made a similar move 5 years ago, from Chicagoland to NC, without knowing a soul or ever living anywhere on the east coast (as adults). We have also been more than pleased with the move too. For those who aren't moving to a place they already know or to be near grandkids/family - big moves to a brand new place can be done successfully, with careful research.
 
Great update! So nice that your move has worked out fairly well for you.
Enjoy every day, it sounds pretty peaceful.
 
Thank you for the detailed writeup. It sounds like the move has worked out well for you.
My DH and I are planning to relocate and are just starting to consider possible areas. Delaware and Pennsylvania are high on our list, so your experience is particularly helpful.
 
Good to hear that the move has worked out for you. I lived in an apartment in Pike Creek when I first moved to DE out of college, and DH and I lived in Hockessin just off of Brackenville Rd in the 90s. Beautiful area. I really miss the windy roads through the farms, DH (who is a TX native) not so much, so I get it. I would encourage you to do some day-trip exploring - there is lots to see within a 90 minute drive in just about any direction. Enjoy!
 
It sounds like your move has gone well. There are always adjustments when you move to a new area, but it sounds like you've adapted well to your new environment.

As for the windy roads, vs straight freeways. I had the same adjustment when I moved from the West Coast (CA and WA) to suburban Philly. There were no roads that went where you want to go - they often wandered, meandered, had weird turns as the crossed/joined/exited other weird meandering roads. They had weird names like Pike, vs avenue, street, boulevard. So directions (I lived there before google maps) would say something like "take Limekiln Pike" - but the roads signs might be a number 152, or the name of a street that happened to coincide with Limekiln Pike/152 for a few blocks. I complained to friends about it and they laughed at me. By the time I left PA I had figured out the roads... but it took a few years.

I think western states, because they were built up later had better road systems planned. The eastern states based the roads on old coach roads and cow paths.
 
I enjoyed my four years in Delaware very much. I’m now not far from you in the Philly suburbs. The cost of living there is definitely lower than in my area.
 
I was a DuPonter and we lived in DE twice. First in the Brandywine area, and some years later in Drummond North/Pike Creek. We liked being there. DE had much more of a midwestern vibe than east coast. You should like it.
 
I'm a couple hours southeast of you near Ocean City, MD. The doctor issue is real, and covers this entire area of the east coast. I've reached the point where finding a specialist who can give me an appointment in 4 months is considered normal. The same goes for dentists, eye doctors, and veterinarians. Once you get in with them it's not so bad, but a first visit can be really hard to get.

Our second house is in a suburb of DC, although pretty far out. But they have tons of doctors and vets and such, and it usually only takes a week or so for the appointments. Supply and demand, I guess.

Anyway, welcome to the east coast, where we don't have fire ants, wild pigs, or most of the other things REWahoo lists to keep people out of Texas.
 
I remember your thread when you were looking for your new home. Thank you for the update and the thorough review.
 
Good that the leap of faith is working out for you.

We also moved to a place where we did not know anyone. But, we had been here a few times, and specifically toured the various neighborhood / towns around the lake to see what we liked. 20 months in we are still doing house projects. But have got used to driving the winding roads. At least there are minimal traffic signals (3 in the valley, all on 1 street), and not even many stop signs. Yeah, it takes an hour to get down to the city of big box stores. Summer is hotter than I thought it would be. So what. It's mostly peaceful, and plenty of nature vs excess hardscape.
 
For shorter trips, you can get to some Delaware beaches with a 1 hour drive. You can visit the Amish in Lancaster County, PA with a 45 minute drive.
So one day we wanted to have lunch at BJ's and the closest one to us in Delaware is in Lancaster. So the map said it was about an hour drive straight (so to speak -- winding roads) to the restaurant. Fine. However -- that Google map time completely ignores the buggies! There were so many particularly when we got out of the restaurant (around 5 pm or so). And, it definitely slowed things down. It didn't help that we followed Google Maps for the fastest route which wasn't a freeway. Next time will try to route to avoid buggies.

Good choice - we did consider Delaware and many of the people we knew in NJ ended up in Delaware for many of the reasons you mentioned. Lower taxes and lower COL than most of NJ.
For us it was too warm and we prefer cooler summers and winters. So we ended up along the coast in CT, still gets warm here but winters are mild near the shore. Anyways, enjoy!

CT was on our list and we considered it. But COL was better in Delaware and CT was cooler and we didn't want too cool.


The train I often take from DC to NYC stops in Wilmington, so you can definitely do day trips to either city to find any restaurant you can think of! Let me know if you're looking for any specific recommendations, but if you want to do an overnight trip to NYC, you can walk to a couple of Pod hotels from Penn Station, they're clean and comfortable and usually under $200 per night. And if you want to drive or take the train down to Baltimore, the National Aquarium there is the best I've ever seen, on par with the Shedd Aquarium in Chicago. I highly recommend it.

So what are Pod hotels? We have thought a lot about taking a trip overnight to NYC but really weren't sure what to do when we got there. We've been there before on vacation but usually for a specific reason. To see a specific show or see a baseball game or just do tourist stuff. Now, we really don't have most of that we want to do but it would be cool to just go and eat out but not really do much of anything. Do you know any good Mediterranean or Italian restaurants?


I looked up Philly metro area, and it does seem that Delaware is included in the statistical area. But I personally never thought of it that way.

For contractors I usually skim through NextDoor. Yeah, it's 99% drivel, but worth a try for contractors. I found HVAC and Plumbing companies of good standing. Converting a shower space, you'd want to get friendly with your neighbors to find out who to avoid, and who to pursue.

For healthcare, Lankenau Health Group, UofP and Jefferson are probably the top choices if the problem is major. A 6-month wait would tell me to choose a different specialist. I just had to re-visit my urologist after 4 years (long story), and the wait for a top surgeon office visit in CC Philly was about a month. Locally, I could get on someone's schedule next week.

For dinner or lunch, we occasionally meet friends or relatives near RiverWalk. https://www.tripadvisor.com/Restaur...Wilmington_Riverwalk-Wilmington_Delaware.html

Northern Delaware is in the statistical area not the southern part. While I have gone into Philly proper (just suburbs) my daughter (who moved here a few months after us) goes into Philly pretty regularly and finds it no big deal. Living in Texas in large metro areas driving 45 min to an hour was not a big deal to us.

Yes, I am looking at NextDoor although there are fewer people giving recommendations there than in Texas. I found someone on there to move some furniture around in the house including moving a freezer from the kitchen to the basement. They didn't have the tools to take the door off so it was just a waste of money. Still need to find someone to do that....

Yes, I have heard of those places for medical care. My cardiologist (recommended by my PCP) who is at Christiana hospital just transitioned to a non-patient facing role (he turned 70 so I think it was required). So now I have to find a new cardiologist. But I don't need to go back for 6 months so should have time to find someone.

The one place I have been to in Wilmington is the RiverWalk although it was during the day just to look at it. That reminds me that DH and I had thought about going there. Good idea.


Ahhh, you are in a beautiful area! Winterthur, Longwood gardens, Kennett Square, Brandywine museum, Chadds Ford...so many good restaurants and shopping opportunities. Get the annual pass for Longwood! It is wonderful to see in all the seasons.

Someone else recently recommended Longwood Gardens to us so that is on our list. We've driven through Kennett Square and Chadds Ford several times and gone to a few restaurants nearby.

+1. Glad it worked out so well for you. We made a similar move 5 years ago, from Chicagoland to NC, without knowing a soul or ever living anywhere on the east coast (as adults). We have also been more than pleased with the move too. For those who aren't moving to a place they already know or to be near grandkids/family - big moves to a brand new place can be done successfully, with careful research.

When we were deciding whether to do so, I actually remembered your posts about making a similar move and how you had succeeded in it. I also found helpful your posts about how to meet people (we haven't done it yet, but it is on our list).

Thank you for the detailed writeup. It sounds like the move has worked out well for you.
My DH and I are planning to relocate and are just starting to consider possible areas. Delaware and Pennsylvania are high on our list, so your experience is particularly helpful.

We thought hard about Pennsylvania. We liked the idea that it is a larger state with more amenities right there. For us, income tax is about the same in the 2 states since we probably won't have enough non-SS income in Delaware to have to pay much taxes. With Pa it wouldn't have been taxable at all. On the other hand, Pa has higher property taxes (still much less than Texas) with nothing to keep them from increasing. And, of course, Pa has sales tax. (I see lots of Pa plates in northern Delaware shopping centers). So I felt Pa was reasonably close to De in COL but De had the edge. Without getting into politics, it was a factor for us and we felt De was closer to what we were looking for.

Beautiful area. I really miss the windy roads through the farms, DH (who is a TX native) not so much, so I get it. I would encourage you to do some day-trip exploring - there is lots to see within a 90 minute drive in just about any direction. Enjoy!

We are finally working on that exploring and I agree. The windy roads are beautiful. We also talk about it. Just frustrated with the slowness at times.

I'm a couple hours southeast of you near Ocean City, MD. The doctor issue is real, and covers this entire area of the east coast. I've reached the point where finding a specialist who can give me an appointment in 4 months is considered normal. The same goes for dentists, eye doctors, and veterinarians. Once you get in with them it's not so bad, but a first visit can be really hard to get.

That has been my experience. The first appointment is hard to get but after that, it is OK. Having the concierge PCP has been helpful as he will try to find an alternative if one place is too booked up.


Good that the leap of faith is working out for you.

We also moved to a place where we did not know anyone. But, we had been here a few times, and specifically toured the various neighborhood / towns around the lake to see what we liked. 20 months in we are still doing house projects.

Yes, we still have a number of house projects. When we moved here our place was to do a short term rental. We signed a 3 month less with the ability to increase if we wanted. Our thought was to spend that 3 months looking around and deciding if we wanted to stay here. The real estate market was very competitive and many real estate people told me it would take months to get an offer accepted. As it turned out, we found a house a few weeks after getting here and made an offer (our first) and it was accepted so we ended up under contract faster than we expected. Still by then, even after only a few weeks we felt comfortable committing.
 
So what are Pod hotels? We have thought a lot about taking a trip overnight to NYC but really weren't sure what to do when we got there. We've been there before on vacation but usually for a specific reason. To see a specific show or see a baseball game or just do tourist stuff. Now, we really don't have most of that we want to do but it would be cool to just go and eat out but not really do much of anything. Do you know any good Mediterranean or Italian restaurants?
Pod hotels are smaller rooms, sometimes with bunk beds, but they do have queen rooms. I call it an upscale hostel, but you do have your own bathroom, and it's actually very nice, just...small. I'm actually seeing rooms tonight for $100-150. (Actually, it looks like Pod51 has some shared bathroom rooms, which I didn't realize.) I usually stay at Pod 39 or Pod Times Square when I'm there to do something in midtown and head back the next day.

I actually tend to spend most of my time in Queens, where I grew up and a lot of my friends still live. If you are going to a Mets game, you can walk there (in about 20-30 minutes) from the Parc hotel; you can also see the stadium and the runways at LaGuardia airport from their rooftop bar.

One of the best meals I've ever had was at estiatorio Milos, so that's probably one of the best Mediterranean restaurants in the area, at least in Manhattan. Not sure about Italian, as there have always been lots of little Italian places in lots of neighborhoods, I usually only focus on pizza, but it's hard to go wrong. When I'm there I tend to focus on the stuff I can't find as easily here, like deli food/smoked fish, Asian (particularly Korean) restaurants, and a few other specialties. There's a great shabu shabu (hot pot) place near the Parc hotel, Spring Shabu Shabu, that's always fun, as is Korean BBQ (cooked on a burner set in your table).
 
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