FedRetired50
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Come on- snap out of it, man!
From his description it sounds like he has mild depression. "Snap out of it" is useless advice for someone in that position.
Come on- snap out of it, man!
Very well stated. I also wonder at times why I didn't just keep on working with the pay I had I could be worth a whole lot more. I was never unhappy with my work and looked forward each day to go to work.Hello Hustler. Found this thread after googling "lost in retirement." A state I have found myself in off and on since 2007 when I FIREd. At 53 I can totally relate to what you are describing. Something that was very helpful for me at the front end of my early retirement was hiring a life coach (finding a good one can be VERY tough btw) who helped me immensely with personal development. For the first few years I read and gobbled up everything I could in the personal development space (think Tim Ferriss, James Clear, stoicism, Buddhist psychology, meditation, nutrition, exercise, etc.). Life changing amazing stuff which I still focus on today albeit less so than in the early years. If I could do it all over again I would have reinvented myself vocationally and stayed in the workforce. I have now mentally atrophied in the FIRE comfort zone and find getting involved too onerous now. So, I guess not surprisingly, if I was 31 and FI, I would skip the RE part, especially it being 2023. The next few decades with AI and all that's going on in the world it is sure to be an exciting time to be "on the playing field" vs. in the bleachers. For me, not recreating a vocational position in my life is one of, if not the biggest mistake of my life. I used to wonder with judgement why rich and famous people all work when they do not need to. Why proactively sign up for such hassles? Now I understand.
As humans we need purpose and direction. I am 50yo and still feel the need to work. Issues is now I have been out of my skill base work for a couple years. I regret not keeping up with sustaining my skills. I'm not giving up, but the tunnel is closing.
Wow, you need someone to tell you how to live your life (life coach). I would rather work if I need that.
My purpose and direction in retirement is to enjoy life as much as possible.
^This is where I'm at. Last day of work was 15 February 2023. I'm sort of maybe looking. Don't need to. I still officiate sports and DW is still working. I disagree that PURPOSE and DIRECTION means WORK. It can. My 60-70-80 yr old mentors tell me that a person needs to be physically active and mentally engage/challenged until the very end. I'm also writing (and reading) books. Heading to Northern WI in three weeks completing research on 2 book projects.
Hi flyingaway. Why do you feel it necessary to judge and insult me? I'm genuinely curious what motived you. This is my first day and post (likely my last thanks to you) in this forum and I found my comment to be a positive and relevant contribution to the topic. Shaming someone for hiring a life coach is bizarre. For the record, "A life coach advocates for and consults with people to help them strengthen their life skills and reach their full potential. Clients seek out life coaches because they help people make new goals and change the direction of their lives." - Indeed.com
Hi all! I (M31) have been FIREd for 2 years now. As soon as I reached my financial goal, I quit my corporate job and have moved back to my home country. Before making this major life shift, I had a whole list of things that I wanted to do with my free time, such as enrolling into a graduate school, be more physically active, travel more - simply enjoying the life.
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I had on old friend (now gone to his final reward) who used to say - quite eloquently - "Now that I'm retired, I don't know how I ever had time to w*rk!" He had so many hobbies and projects that he was busy most of his waking hours. He had zero regrets about retiring and never looked back. YMMV
Hi flyingaway. Why do you feel it necessary to judge and insult me? I'm genuinely curious what motived you. This is my first day and post (likely my last thanks to you) in this forum and I found my comment to be a positive and relevant contribution to the topic. Shaming someone for hiring a life coach is bizarre. For the record, "A life coach advocates for and consults with people to help them strengthen their life skills and reach their full potential. Clients seek out life coaches because they help people make new goals and change the direction of their lives." - Indeed.com
Hi flyingaway. Why do you feel it necessary to judge and insult me? I'm genuinely curious what motived you. This is my first day and post (likely my last thanks to you) in this forum and I found my comment to be a positive and relevant contribution to the topic. Shaming someone for hiring a life coach is bizarre. For the record, "A life coach advocates for and consults with people to help them strengthen their life skills and reach their full potential. Clients seek out life coaches because they help people make new goals and change the direction of their lives." - Indeed.com
...For about a year, I was probably pulling in around 70-80 hours per week, between all jobs...